If you knew the story of my life, you would know that I, like many of you, have navigated life by not only bumping into a lot of walls, at times, I was thrown into walls no-one should ever have to know ...
Along with the many things my life has taught me that fall under the label " wisdom," it has also taught me the value of humour. Wisdom - does not imply I am the keeper of wisdom only that the world is full of wisdom and I, being sorely in need of help, got a first hand experience of understanding how some of it works. It is not MY wisdom and I am not an exceptional mind ... just a human being like all of us. Consider me the "I figured out after I smashed my fingers with the hammer, that it hurts, and I probably should not do it again." type of learner.
I found that laughter is incredibly healing. And most important in that laughing, is the ability to laugh at myself. Damn I have made some stupid mistakes and I do "carry on like a pork chop" as my husband will observe at times. When I am really lost in my world of making mountains as I sometimes lose my way, my husband laughs. And then he makes an observation about my actions or my words and we are both laughing ... and I get it ... and I love him for using humour as a "tool" against my sometimes emotional insanity.
Oh and I have tried to NOT laugh when hubby zings me ... It is impossible.
And then I realize when I do that, I am not looking for solution, I am looking to be miserable.
Sometimes we need that mirror to just see how silly we are being and it is easier to see it when we are all laughing because laughing together is healing. It holds the promise that we can move on from this.
It certainly is better than standing there with a bucket of tar in one hand and a bucket of feathers in the other. See Christ said "Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." That means ... PUT THE STONES DOWN. Unless of course our intent is to tar and feather and stone people. If that is the case then lets be clear, we just want to destroy people, and forget the pretence of being noble and trying to make things better.
Personally I have more respect for someone who admits they want to be an asshole than I do for the person who is pretending to "help" while they are busy getting everything ready for the asshole fair.
I don't want to destroy human beings or insinuate that I am better than them or that I have never done anything wrong. So humour, is good. It makes me smile during difficult times, it makes bridges between people, and it extends an invitation for us all to laugh at ourselves and admit we are all just humans and making so many mistakes and .... damn we get crazy sometimes.
Look at children, they are always laughing ... and often over nothing. They celebrate that someone farted or that they are riding a bike or just saw their mom pull up outside the day care to take them home. They laugh at silly cartoons and even laugh at how impossible and silly it is to get all dressed up and sit perfectly still on a hard wooden bench ever Sunday.
It feels wonderful to laugh so hard you cannot speak, to be with people who take you there. We feel connected and taken out of the far too many moments where the tragedies of life weigh down on us until we feel we are drowning. Laughter is healing.
If you can't laugh at yourself ... Laugh at me ... But please please laugh ...